0:48 Why Your Life Never Feels Balanced
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35:35 What Does Life Balance Mean to You?
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Is life balance possible? What does life balance even mean? Here’s a hint: It’s not about doing everything for an equal amount of time. In this episode, we’ll cover what life balance really is and how to achieve it. Plus, I sit down with Elisabeth Hasselbeck to talk about what life balance looks like in different seasons. Then we’ll spend some time journaling about how to balance your life in your current season.
Why Your Life Never Feels Balanced
I think we have a lot of really mixed up ideas about what life balance is. A lot of people think that life balance is doing everything for an equal amount of time—where work takes 50% of your time and home life is the other 50%. But that’s not balance. Life balance is about doing the right thing at the right time and being 100% present where you are.
And it’s also something you have to define for yourself. Your version of life balance is the only version that matters because it’s your life. It doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. At the end of the day, what’s most important is that you are spending your one life on what's most important to you. When you do that, you are creating and achieving your own version of life balance.
What’s Important in Your Life? with Elisabeth Hasselbeck
Elisabeth Hasselbeck has such a cool story. She’s been a cast member on Survivor. She’s been a host on The View and Fox & Friends. She’s a New York Times bestselling author. She’s CBO (Chief Breakfast Officer) for her kids. And she has a lot of amazing wisdom on how to achieve life balance.
In this episode, we’ll talk about:
What Does Life Balance Mean to You?
Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men. — Colossians 3:23 (NIV)
I’ve been through so many seasons in life that didn’t feel balanced or purposeful. I’m willing to bet you’ve been there too. In hindsight, I can see a lot of things that God was doing. But in other seasons, I’m still not sure what the why was. All I know is this: It’s up to you to treat your season as if it has purpose. Work at it with all your heart as if you are working for the Lord and not for men.
Use these journal questions to think about how this applies to your life:
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12:48 Managing Energy vs. Time: Which Is better?
22:44 This Is Too Much to Handle Alone
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We’ve been talking about the outer layer of the Core of Confidence and how to value your resources—your time, money and energy. In this episode, we’re focusing on how to manage your energy. To start, I’ll give you five specific things you can do right now to boost your energy. Spoiler: Drinking more coffee isn’t one of them. I’ll also unpack an article that talks about how managing your energy might be even more important than managing your time. Then we’ll spend some time journaling about how to keep going when you feel exhausted.
5 Ways to Boost Your Energy Right Now
A lot of people waste their energy by focusing on the things that don't matter, and then they don't have energy left over for the things that do. I'm not just talking about time or money or your attention. I'm also talking about effort and enthusiasm. Let’s be honest: Coffee can only do so much.
The reality is that our energy is finite—at some point, it’s going to run out. That's why I want to give you five specific things you can do this week to not only manage your energy, but also boost it.
Managing Energy vs. Time: Which Is better?
I want to highlight an article I read the other day by the Harvard Business Review called “Manage Your Energy, Not Your Time.” Specifically, I want to talk about where it says that energy can be “systematically expanded and regularly renewed by establishing specific rituals—behaviors that are intentionally practiced and precisely scheduled, with the goal of making them unconscious and automatic as quickly as possible.”
This is fascinating to me, and what's so amazing is that I found this article after I started my own rituals. See, you already have enough to worry about in a given day, am I right? Your brain is already working hard to keep up with your work, your business, your goals, your relationships and your to-do list. That takes energy!
That’s why it’s so important to do things that create structure. Go to bed early. Wake up early. And stop giving your brain more than it needs to work on. You’ll have more peace and freedom by creating rituals that give you real results in your life and with your energy.
This Is Too Much to Handle Alone
I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength. — Philippians 4:13 (NLT)
The truth is, we can do things to boost our energy. We can do things that give us real results in our life. But we're still going to go through times that are hard. I’ve been through them, and I’m sure you have too. When we're in those seasons—or even when we're in really good times—it’s important to remember that the number one source of strength and renewal of our energy is God.
Here are a few journal questions to help you process this:
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We’re continuing to talk through the outer layer of the Core of Confidence: Valuing Your Resources. And as you know, our resources include time, money and even energy. We’re going to do a deep dive into the topic of managing our money in ways that bring glory to God. We’re also going to dig into current events and highlight some good news that came out of this pandemic. Finally, we’ll spend some time journaling on what this looks like for you. Let’s go!
Not Living the Life You Want? Change This Habit.
Y’all, I’ve made some massive mistakes with money.
Growing up, I never really heard the word no very often. But that led to some problems when I got older. I didn’t understand that you had to make choices with your money, live within your means, use a budget, and save for things you really want.
For years, I chose to live a life of barely getting by and putting most of my paychecks toward debt and payments. I called my mom often, asking her to put money in my bank account because I couldn’t make it to my next payday. But one day when I was around 24 years old, I had to call my mom again to ask her to put money in my bank account.
I was so fed up. I knew I couldn't live like this. I knew that I wanted nothing more in my life than the dignity of paying for my own lifestyle, my own expenses and my own bills.
That day, something in me changed. I decided I was going to work really, really hard to get out of debt. So, I tackled it like you tackle anything—one tiny step at a time. And exactly one week before I got engaged to my husband, Matt, I became debt-free. I made that final payment.
I won’t ever forget how it felt to feel that freedom. I won’t ever forget how it felt to know that when I got paid on Friday, I was going to actually get to keep my money. I won’t forget how it felt to go into my engagement completely debt-free. But I also will never forget the shame and the fear that haunted me every single payday.
We’ve all bought into this lie that this is just how it is. But I want to tell you that there’s a different way to live life. You don't have to struggle with your money forever. You don't have to barely get by. You don't have to feel fear when you check the mailbox.
But in order for that to happen, you have to decide that you're going to do something different. You have to have that moment that I had and say, Never again. I'm not going to live like this anymore. I'm not going to depend on credit cards. I'm not going to be sinking in debt up to my eyeballs. Never again.
Today, you have to think long term, not short term. Make the decision to change your life. When you do, you won’t just change your life—you’ll change your entire family tree.
I know you can do it, and I can't wait to watch you win.
Most Americans Are Now Doing This. Are You?
In America, people are stockpiling their cash and savings rates are going up.
I think we can all come to the conclusion that this is happening because of the pandemic and the current state of the economy. This is a really important topic in light of what we're talking about when it comes to managing your money.
See, we've had this wake-up call during the pandemic like nothing we've ever experienced in our generation. These wake-up calls give us an opportunity to do something different. And until you have a reason to do something different, you’re not going to change. You're just going to keep getting by.
And one of the things that the pandemic created in our world is a new perspective. It created an opportunity for you to think about how you manage your money. Let it be a wake-up call to actually save some money in an emergency fund. That way, the next time something like this happens, there will be a cushion between you and rock bottom.
Are You Stressed About Money? Let’s Change That.
“In the house of the wise are stores of choice food and oil, but a foolish man devours all he has.” Proverbs 21:20 (NIV)
“The wise man saves for the future, but the foolish man spends whatever he gets.” Proverbs 21:20 (TLB)
It’s really tempting to just spend whatever you make or whatever’s in your bank account. If you've got it, you can spend it. I love how these verses shine a light on this. The wise man or woman has stores of food and oil. The wise man or woman saves and has a cushion—some extra stored away for a rainy day. There’s wisdom in saving and being prepared.
I want to be wise. I know you do too. So, I want to give you some questions to put this into practice. Process these questions and let them sink into your spirit. You can have actual change in your life, in your habits, and in your bank accounts.
0:47 Most People Do This 100 Times a Day. Do You?
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31:41 Do You Feel Guilty About How You Spend Your Time?
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Today on the show, we’re working through the outer layer of the Core of Confidence, talking about what it looks like to value our resources by focusing on time management—the thing we all struggle with every single day of our lives. Then one of our longtime Academy members, Misty McCraw, joins me for a live coaching session on what it looks like to manage our time by deciding what’s most important. Finally, we’ll dive in and spend some time journaling on what this looks like for you. Let’s go!
Most People Do This 100 Times a Day. Do You?
We constantly think that we just need more time. But you know what? That's actually not the problem. The problem is not the amount of time that we have. The problem is how we use it. We all have the exact same number of hours in a day, so we can't get more time. But what we can do is change how we use the time that we have. So where are you spending your time?
Here are my top three time wasters:
Spending our one life on what we care about sounds so simple doesn’t it? But it’s so hard to do because of these time traps. We end up spending all of our time over here when what we actually care about is over there. There’s a gap between what we care about and what we actually spend our life on.
My challenge for you is to look at your life through the lens of priorities. It's not about doing everything for an equal amount of time. Life balance is about doing the right things at the right time. What matters is that you spend your one life on what's most important to you.
Overwhelmed by Your To-Do List? Live Coaching with Misty McCraw
We’re doing something brand new: Misty McCraw (a longtime Academy member) joins me in the studio today for live coaching! Misty shares some of her biggest struggles when it comes to time management. I coach her as we sort through her priorities together and find out what it looks like to be successful when it comes to managing the endless to-do list.
Do You Feel Guilty About How You Spend Your Time?
“Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.” — 2 Corinthians 9:7–8 (NIV)
This verse usually refers to giving with tithes and offerings. But I think it’s also a great reminder when it comes to how we use our time. We should spend our time on things that are important to us—on things that God has placed in front of us—and not out of guilt or compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.
Your life is made up of how you spend your time. I think it's important to God that we are good stewards with the time He has given us. Write down your answers to these questions:
0:44 Three Things You Need to Value More
12:00 The Secret to Protecting Your Time with Michael Hyatt
28:29 Are You Wasting Your Resources?
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As we continue to work through the outer layer of the Core of Confidence, we’re diving into what it looks like to value our resources—our time, money and energy. Bestselling author and productivity expert Michael Hyatt joins me to discuss what it actually looks like to manage your resources, like your calendar and productivity. Then, we’re going to process it all through a few journal questions about becoming better stewards of our time, money and energy. Let’s dive in!
Three Things You Need to Value More
Here’s what I’ve noticed: There’s a major difference in my life when I value something and when I don’t. One of the most limited resources we have is our time, but it’s often the thing we value the least, treating it like it’s limitless.
God calls us to be good stewards of our time, money and energy. But when it comes to actually doing that, we feel anxious, stressed and frustrated. There’s a disconnect between what you care about and what your life actually reflects.
Life balance isn't about doing everything for an equal amount of time. It's about doing the right things at the right time and living from your values. It's about spending your one life on what you actually care about.
When you’re living from your values, you’ll be less stressed and more confident. Why? Because you’re choosing to be intentional with what God has given you. And as you learn to value your resources and strengthen that muscle overtime, you’ll look up and realize you not only like yourself, but you also actually like the life that you’re living.
The Secret to Protecting Your Time with Michael Hyatt
Today, I’m chatting with bestselling author Michael Hyatt. Michael is brilliant when it comes to time management and productivity, so we’re unpacking what it looks like to value your resources—especially your time. Here are some key points from our conversation:
Are You Wasting Your Resources?
Our Scripture of the week comes from Matthew 25:14–30 called The Parable of the Talents.
We have an opportunity and a responsibility to be faithful with what we've been given and to be wise stewards of our money, time and what we put our energy, efforts and talents into. Think about what this means in your life, both spiritually and practically, and write down your answers to these questions:
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Today, we're continuing our journey through the Core of Confidence and talking about honoring our relationships as we work on ourselves from the inside out. Then, my good friend and bestselling author Les Parrott sits down with me to talk about healthy relationships and principles from his new book (that I’m absolutely loving!). Later on, we’ll unpack the Golden Rule and how we can incorporate that into our relationships. Let’s jump in!
The Quality of Your Life Depends on This One Thing
Relationships make up every aspect of our lives. But the reality is, life is messy and people are imperfect. So, when it comes to honoring the relationships in your life, how do you speak the truth and be loving instead of harsh?
Here’s a rule of thumb I like to use in my relationships: the Golden Rule. Treat others as you would want to be treated. It's so simple, right? But it's so hard to do because you can't control how someone treats you. What you can control is how you treat them. You can do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
To break it down even further, here are three really simple and tactical things you can do to put the Golden Rule into practice when it comes to your relationships:
Here’s the Real Problem With Your Relationships with Les Parrott
Today on the show, I’m chatting with my good friend and bestselling author Les Parrott. Les just published a new book called Healthy Me, Healthy Us. I’m loving it, and I know you will too. Les and I talked about his new book and what it looks like to honor your relationships. Here are a few highlights:
Are You Getting This Right?
“So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.” — Matthew 7:12 (NIV)
We've been talking a lot about honoring your relationships. We know we can't control other people, but we can control ourselves. So, I want to ask you a few questions to help you put this into practice:
0:46 Stop Being Mean to This Friend
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Welcome to The Christy Wright Show! Today, we’re going to jump into talking about how you can appreciate your body—this one body you’ve been given. I know this is a topic that starts to make all of us feel pretty uncomfortable, but y’all, it’s that important. Lisa Bevere is joining me today to unpack what it looks like to really like and appreciate the body you’ve been given.
Stop Being Mean to This Friend
We all have this negative voice in our heads that tell us we’re not enough . . . not pretty enough, not skinny enough, not young enough, and the list goes on. And we always think, “If I looked like that, I wouldn’t have these thoughts.” But it doesn’t matter what you look like, because no one is exempt from it.
The way you talk to yourself affects your sense of confidence and joy. It affects who you are and what you do in this life more than you can possibly imagine. It affects the example you set for your children, friends and even your coworkers. So, it’s time to change the narrative. It’s time to start appreciating this one body God gave you to live in.
Scripture says your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19–20). Your body was created by God, and I guarantee you that He doesn’t make mistakes. I believe that He loves your body. He even likes it. And He probably wants you to love it and like it as well. Think about it: Would you ever treat your friend how you’re treating yourself? It's time you actually become friends with your body, appreciate it, and celebrate it.
So, if you're going to build confidence in yourself and the God who created you—if you're going to get back to yourself and live this amazing life that God has for you—you have to start appreciating this one body you've been given.
One Thing You Need to Stop Obsessing About with Lisa Bevere
I’m so excited to hang out with Lisa Bevere today as we talk about what it looks like to appreciate your body. Lisa is the bestselling author of several books, and she just recently published a new women’s devotional called Strong. Here are a few highlights from our conversation:
The Gift You’re Missing Out On…
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.” —1 Corinthians 6:19–20 (NIV)
You are not your own. You were bought at a price. I love this idea of a different layer of responsibility, not only because it obviously affects how we think about ourselves and our sense of confidence, but it's also a command from God who loves us very much. He knows what's best for us. He knows what we need. He knows what we were created for. So He gives us commands and instructions in His words. And one of the commands is to honor God with your body. Today, I want you to be really honest with yourself as you write down the answers to these questions:
0:56 Are Your Thoughts Beating You Up? Let’s Change That.
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We're continuing to work through The Core of Confidence as we learn what it looks like to work on ourselves from the inside out. And today, we’re taking a deep dive into what it looks like to protect your mind by learning how to control your thoughts. Jennie Allen, my good friend and bestselling author, joins us to chat about her new book and the topic of taking every thought captive. Then, we’ll journal together, digging a little deeper into what protecting your mind actually looks like for you. Let’s go!
Are Your Thoughts Beating You Up? Let’s Change That.
We all have stories and narratives that play in the background of our minds all day, every day. Some of them are true, but many of them are not. And you know, it doesn’t really matter what is true if you don’t believe it, because what you believe is what you experience—whether it’s true or not. The stories you believe and the thoughts that you accept and hold matter. The stories you believe in and the thoughts you have . . . they shape your behavior. They shape your reality. And they make up your life.
God has a lot to say about our thoughts—what we think about and what we set our minds on.
Romans 12:2 (NIV) says: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
Isn't that what we all want—God's will? What is God’s plans for us? What is God's direction?
The Bible says you’ll find it when you renew your mind. That means it's possible to renew your mind. It's possible to have new thoughts. It's possible to retrain your brain to find the truth in the lies and to break through the stories and limitations that have been holding you back. It's possible. It wouldn't say it if it wasn't possible. And that, my friend, is good news for me and you.
The Shocking Truth About 80% of Your Thoughts with Jennie Allen
I’m so excited to chat with Jennie Allen, my good friend and bestselling author. Jennie just launched her new book called Get Out of Your Head. Join us as we work through what it looks like to protect our thoughts by taking every thought captive. We cover:
How You Can Stop Your Toxic Thoughts
Our Scripture of the week is 2 Corinthians 10:5 (NIV): “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
I don’t know about you, but that can sound overwhelming. But I love what Jennie Allen taught us—take just one thought captive. The idea that you have a choice, and that you don’t have to be a victim of that thought or live in that lie. You get to choose what you think. You get to actually control and protect your mind. So, today, I want you to take this opportunity to ask God to reveal to you what you’ve been believing that isn’t true.
So, press pause and write down your answers to these questions as you ask God to show you the lies you might have been believing:
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In episode one, we talked about The Core of Confidence framework and what it looks like to work on yourself from the inside out. This week, we’re talking about starting where it all begins: your spirit.
Everything starts and ends with God. To work on yourself from the inside out, you have to start with the deepest, most important part of you: your spirit. Today, we’re talking about what it looks like to make faith your foundation. Join me and Annie F. Downs as we talk about what it looks like to live that out. Then, I’ll give you some questions so you can process how you can live out your faith in your own life.
Do You Feel Like You’ve Lost Control of Your Life? Here’s What Needs to Change.
Everything starts and ends with God. He’s who we live for. And our faith is what we live from.
In Matthew 22:37–40 (NIV), Jesus said, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself. All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”
To work from the inside out, you have to start with the deepest, most important part of you, which is your foundation of faith. It's not just a piece of the pie. It's not a label we give ourselves like wife, mother, leader, author . . . and it’s certainly not created equal with everything else.
Instead, your faith should be the filter that you put everything else through. It should be the source of your energy, your direction and your decisions. You were created and designed for your relationship with God to be the very foundation you build your life on. Everything starts there.
Why You Should Make Faith a Priority in Your Life with Annie F. Downs
Today, I’m sitting down with my good friend, bestselling author, and brilliant Bible teacher Annie F. Downs. Annie and I are talking about what it looks like to build a foundation of faith in our lives, including:
Are You Tired of Trying to Fix Everything in Your Life? Do This.
“Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.” — John 15:4 (NIV)
I love the idea of remaining. It’s so simple to understand but hard to do. We've been talking about what it looks like to build a foundation of faith, and one of the simplest (but most important) things that we can do is to simply remain in our relationship with the Lord.
Remaining can be so hard. But God is saying that a life of faith means a life of trust. It means letting go and holding every aspect of what you do and what you have with open hands so God can put what He wants in your life and take what He wants out of it. Our only job is to remain in Him.
So, I want to lead you through a few journal questions. I encourage you to pray about your answers to these questions as you process what it means for you to remain in Jesus:
My hope for you would be that as you answer these questions, you begin to cultivate this habit of remaining in the Lord. And that it not only becomes easier for you, but it also becomes something you actually experience every single day.
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Today’s the day: The Christy Wright Show is here! This is something God laid on my heart a while ago, and I truly believe it’s going to have a huge impact. Don’t worry, we’re still going to help you pursue your dreams, build your business, and reach your goals. But we’re also going to help you with your life. Because let’s face it: You don’t have a business life and a home life. You have ONE life. And that’s what this show’s all about.
In each episode, I’m going to give you everything you need to help you break through limitations that are holding you back and keeping you stuck. And once you step outside that box, you might just surprise yourself. I'm really excited to see what new possibilities this opens for you, what God might be doing in your life, and what He has to say.
I’ll be here to point you toward truth, perspective and the motivation you need to live the life God’s calling you to—whether that’s making money doing what you love or something completely different.
Y’all, I’m so excited to see what God’s going to do in and through you as you take this step of faith with us.
The Real Way to Build Confidence
Real life-change happens when you work on yourself from the inside out. That’s why I want to introduce you to the framework I use to help others do just that. It’s called the Core of Confidence. This framework is made up of five stages that help you build confidence in yourself and the God who created you. Let’s take a look:
How Do You Work on Yourself with Rachel Cruze
Y’all, I’m so excited because one of my best friends is here to talk about one of our favorite topics: working on yourself. Rachel Cruze is a #1 New York Times bestselling author and host of The Rachel Cruze Show. We covered a lot of ground in our conversation, but here are some of my favorite takeaways:
“I know that I’m such a better mom, I’m such a better wife, I’m such a better friend when I’m functioning out of the whole person of who I am.” — Rachel Cruze
What Part of Your Life Can You Control
Many of you know that I’m really big on journaling. I think it’s so powerful when you take the ideas in your head and the dreams in your heart and get them down on paper. When I journal, I end up writing down thoughts and feelings I didn’t even know I had. And more than that, it’s an opportunity for God to show up and lead.
So, let’s jump in and spend some time journaling about today’s Scripture.
Galatians 6:4–5 (NIV) says, “Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load.”
Work through these questions below, taking the time to pause, pray and journal:
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And sometimes I have this pattern in my life where I might go a season—a few weeks, a month, maybe even a few months—without going to church. This is embarrassing to admit, but life gets hard. You have babies . . . You get sick . . . Sometimes it's just tough to get there.
But every single time I go back to church after one of these seasons, I notice something: I have this mindset that I'm doing it for God. I'm going to be a good Christian. I'm going to go to church. I'm going to get my brownie points. I'm going make God so happy with me because I'm showing up. And every single time I go back, I experience the same feeling: I was there for me.
God invites me to church. God invites me into His story and into His plans. Not because He needs me, but for me—because I benefit from it.
I don't know if you’ve ever experienced something similar, but I think it's really common to believe that about anything we do. Whether it’s going to church, reading our Bible, praying, or even giving our time, we start to believe the lie that we’re doing it for God.
But the truth is that it’s for us. God is all powerful. He doesn’t need you or me. He doesn’t need our money, time or talents. He doesn’t need anything. He’s God! He can move mountains, raise the dead, heal the blind, and part red seas. He can do anything. But He chooses to invite us into His story, and it’s for our benefit.
I want to give you three things that you can do to live out your faith in different seasons. And as you step into God's plan and God's calling and God's purpose for you, you’ll experience the ripple effect in the kingdom and in yourself.
You'll be amazed at how He peels away these layers of pride and wounds and selfishness and sin we didn't even know were there. But as long as we have faith and live it out, we're growing to become more like Him.
So, let's talk about three really simple things that you can do to live out your faith for yourself and others.
Matthew 18:20 (NIV) says “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” Sometimes the best gift you can give someone is your presence.
When God is in you, you can show up and show Him to people just by being present. Your presence is a gift and a ministry to the people in your life.
So, just show up. Show up at church. Show up for your friends and family. Show up when someone needs help with their kids. Show up when someone needs a meal. Show up when someone just wants to sit and talk. Just be there for people.
When you give, God is inviting you to open your hands and hold your life, your time, your talents, your money, your energy, your plans, and your agendas with open hands. I believe God calls us to live a life with this posture with open hands where we can freely give and also freely receive.
So, what does that look like for you? Here’s what I know: Every time I give, I think I'm doing it for God and others. And every time, it changes me more than it changes them.
Did you know that God actually moves on your behalf when you pray? I don't know about you, but sometimes when I pray, it can feel like I’m just going through the motions. But that’s not true! When you pray, it actually changes things!
If you're feeling stuck, helpless or stagnant in your faith, you might feel like prayer is the last thing you want to do. But I want to remind you that Scripture is full of examples of how God moves in response to His children. God changes things on behalf of his people when they pray. He can't wait to hear from you and hear your heart as you talk to Him with boldness with confidence.
These simple things are easy ways for you to live out your faith no matter the season: show up, give and pray. When you do these things, you live out your faith as a light to a dark world for other people to see with Jesus helping, leading and guiding you every step of the way.
Y’all, I cannot wait for you to listen to my conversation with Amanda Bible Williams today as we talk about faith. Amanda is the co-founder and Chief Content Officer of She Reads Truth. She Reads Truth is a worldwide community of women who are on mission to read God’s Word together every single day.
On this episode, Amanda and I talk about:
I don't know about you all, but I’ve gone through seasons of my life where I’ve just felt like I don't have anything to give. I want to give. I want to help people. I want to make a difference. I want to show up. I want to do all these things that I feel God calling me to do. But sometimes, I’m just empty, exhausted, burnt out or going through a tough wilderness in my own faith walk. So, how in the world can God use me when I’m struggling to have faith on my own?
About six years ago, I was going through one of these wilderness seasons in my own life. I had been serving as a leader with Young Life on top of working all the time for a nonprofit. It was my last year serving, and I just felt like my heart wasn’t in it. I felt like a hypocrite. I was leading and teaching these high school students, and I didn’t even have it together myself.
All I had to offer were crumbs for these kids. And I remember God saying, I can use crumbs. I can use what you have.
Friend: God can use you—even when you feel like you don't have much to give. God can use what you have right now. You might be going through a tough season just like I was. You might feel like you have nothing to offer. He can use you with what you have right now. Today. Don't discount yourself. You don't have to have it all together.
My friend Christine Caine always says, “God does not call the qualified. He qualifies the called.” If God's calling you, it’s because He wants to use you—even if all you have to offer are crumbs.
Today, we're diving into Part 5 of our series, and it’s all about being willing to go. You have to be willing to go when God opens the door. After He's prepared you and humbled you, and after you've let go of things, you have to be willing to actually step through the open door in front of you. You've been prepared. You've been humbled. You've been faithful. But when God opens that door, you can't just stand there. You can't just stare at it. You can't be scared. You can't be stuck. You've got to be willing to actually step through the door that God has for you.
You know, whenever I first got started speaking, I had no experience, no training, no certification, and no plans to be a speaker. Rachel Cruze (Dave Ramsey’s daughter) had been booked to speak at a conference all over the country in different cities every single day. It was a crazy travel schedule. She was newly out of college, and it was basically two weeks before she was supposed to go on the road.
Dave looked at the schedule and said, “Hey, this is not what we agreed to. This is more than we agreed to. You (me, Christy) have to go back to the conference and tell them she can only do half of the events.” That was a problem. The events started in two weeks, and they thought they had Rachel for 20 dates. I had to be the bearer of bad news. I got on the phone and said, “Hey, I'm so sorry. She's all of the events, but she can do 10 of them, and you can pick whichever 10.”
I'll never forget what Chase (the man on the other end of the line) said to me. He said, “Christy, what am I going to do? I've got her booked for 20 different dates. What am I going to do with the other ones?” And I said, “I'll do them.” And he said, “Can you speak?” I said, “I think so.” You know, I’d never in my life. I just saw a problem and came up with a solution. There was a door that opened in front of me, and I walked through it. I can fix this. I can figure it out. I can make it up as I go. I'm just going say yes to this opportunity before I know how. Did I know how to speak to an audience? No. But I said yes before I knew how.
So, when God opens a door in front of you, you've got to be willing to walk through it. You've got to be willing to go before you know how to say yes. Even if you're not sure how it's going play out, assume that you can. In the absence of information, don't assume there's a rule that you're breaking. Don't assume there's a reason you can't. Assume that you can. And then if you can't, you'll figure it out. God will open doors in front of you, but you’ve got to be willing to go—even if you're scared. Even if you're unsure. Even if you're insecure. Even if you don't know how it's all going to play out. Even if you don't have a perfect plan and a perfect path and a guarantee that it's going to be successful. You've got to be willing to go.
This makes me think about the story of when the Israelites went to explore the Promised Land in the Old Testament. This is the land that God had promised to them, but they would not go and fight for it. They had their part to do. They had to walk through the door. Like the Israelites, we’re participants in this life with God, and even in the plans that he has for us. But an entire generation missed out on the Promised Land—missed out on the plan and the promise that God had for them—because they wouldn't walk through the door. God told the Israelites where He was taking them, that He had gone before them, and that the land was theirs, but they still wouldn’t walk through the door. They wouldn’t go.
Man, that's a powerful lesson. I don't know about you, but I want to be someone that walks through the door. I don't want to miss out on what God has for me over there because I'm scared. Yes, it's scary. You know why? Because the life God has for you is bigger and better than you can imagine. It's more exciting. It's new. It's different. Yes, it's a little bit scary. Yes, it's a little bit unknown. But you know what? If God said it, He will do it. If God opened that door, it’s because He wants you to walk through it.
[share]God’s not limited by your limitations. God’s not limited by your lack of confidence. God’s not limited by your lack of resources or talents. God’s not limited by you.[/share]
So, as we explore five ways to be true to you—five ways for you to step into this bigger, better, more awesome life that God has for you—you have to be willing to go. You have to be willing to say yes before you know how. You have to assume that you can. You have to be willing to step through—even if you don't know how it's going to play out, and even if you don't have a perfect plan. Even if you aren't qualified, certified or confident . . . it doesn't matter. God’s not limited by your limitations. God’s not limited by your lack of confidence. God’s not limited by your lack of resources or talents. God’s not limited by you.
God has something for you to do on the other side of that door. All you have to do is walk through it. That's it. He’ll provide what you need every step of the way. But you have to be the one to take the steps.
Write down where you might be sensing that God wants you to go.
I want you to write that down. I want you to pray about it. I want you to think about it. I want you to ask God what He has in front of you, and then ask Him for the courage to walk through that door.
It's amazing that God not only has these amazing plans for us, but that He also invites us to be participants in those plans. I pray that this encourages you to not only be true to you, but I hope it also builds confidence in who you are and confidence in the God who created you.
Right now, I'm in this season of purging with three small kids. I'm constantly going through closets and toy bins. And when I sit down to do this, I get a little sad. I think about Conley’s sentimental things, or Carter’s shoes that he’s outgrown, or Mary Grace’s newborn onesies. I get a little sad that these seasons of our lives are ending. Even if some of those seasons were hard—like those sleepless nights of the newborn stage.
But you know what? We experience this often. I get really sentimental when something's over. Whether I loved a season or not, I find that there’s something about endings that makes it hard to let go.
I worked at the YMCA for three years. During that time, I worked so hard and so many hours to the point of burnout. So, when this season of my life was ending—when I was leaving a job that my heart had not been in for a while, where I was working every night, every weekend, every week on the holidays—I still felt sad. And I still felt sad even though I was going to a job where I was going to have some balance. I was so excited about where I was going, and yet still sad it was over—still sad to leave behind those relationships, and that season of life, and everything that it represented.
Life can be like that. Endings can be hard and sad. But you know what? Endings make new beginnings possible. Endings make that new thing that God is doing in your life possible.
So, if you're going to live a life true to you and step into this bigger, better, more awesome life that God has for you, you have to be willing to let go of what's behind and what’s no longer right for you.
Friend, you've got to be willing to let some things go. If all we focus on are the endings, we’re going to be sad and filled with regret. But I don't want you to miss the truth of endings: Endings make new beginnings possible. God has something for you, but He cannot put it in your hands until He takes something out.
Isaiah 43:19 (NIV) says:
“See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?”
Being humbled is not fun. Have you ever gone through a season where God was humbling you?
Being humbled hurts—it hurts to your core. It’s more vulnerable than you ever want to be and stings deeper than you ever want to feel. And just when you think you can't take another hit, the hits just keep coming (because that's just what happens in those seasons).
The truth is: God cares more about who you're becoming than where you're going.
Hebrews 12:11 (NIV) says:
“No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”
It seems painful, but your loving Father disciplines because He loves you. And He loves me. And if you're going to be true to you and the person that God created you to be in this bigger, better life, He's going to have to do some things in you before you're ready for it, or even before you can handle it.
[share]God cares more about who you're becoming than where you're going.[/share]
Being humbled is not a one and done type of thing. We're going to go through multiple seasons of this in life. Oswald Chambers, author of My Utmost for His Highest, describes these seasons as valleys of humiliation.
Friend, if you’re in a season of humbling right now or a valley of humiliation, God sees you.
Deuteronomy 31:6 (NIV) says:
“The Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”
He’s with you in this valley. And I know it's hard, and I know it hurts, but take comfort in the fact that God sees you, and He’s with you. This season’s not forever. He's doing something in you.
I love the Bible verse Isaiah 60:22 (NLT) that says:
“At the right time, I, the Lord, will make it happen.”
Yes, you and I need to work hard. It’s up to us to steward what He's given us. It's up to us to be faithful. But it's not all up to us, because we would point back and go, Look how good I did. Look at everything I accomplished. Look how strong and smart and clever and talented I am. No, no. God says that you should work hard with what He’s given you, but when the time’s right, He’ll make it happen.
So, you've got to be willing to be humbled. Be willing to go through those hard seasons. Be willing to be faithful when it hurts, and when you feel lost, and when you feel wronged, and when you feel abandoned. Be willing to be faithful even there in the valley, because it’s not forever.
But God is doing something in you in that valley to prepare you for what’s next.
I want you to simply ask yourself:
Remember: God’s preparing you for something in this life that’s bigger, better and more awesome than you could ever imagine.
In Part 1, we talked about being willing to experiment. Today, we’re building on that as we talk about being willing to work really hard.
Now, I know this doesn't sound fun, right? Like, who needs more to do? But I want to reframe that for you, because hard work, believe it or not, actually has more unbelievable benefits than you could ever imagine.
So many people come up to me at book signings, out in public, or even in coaching calls, and they say, “Christy, I want to do what you do. I want to be a speaker.” I always respond by asking, “What do you want to say? Who have you spoken to? Who have you talked to? Have you spoken for your local church? Have you spoken for a local community group, or even just a book club or ministry?” They say, “No, no, no. I want to speak on big stages. I want to be a professional speaker.” I'm like, “I hear you, but that's where you start. You start by being faithful in the small things. You start by working hard when no one's watching. You start with the humility of someone who’s willing to do the hard work in the beginning for the payoff later on.”
What areas of your life do you need to work really hard in because you're in a season of just getting started? If you've got this idea in your head about a life that you want to lead, it's going to take hard work.
But we can't just coast through life and expect to wake up one day with an amazing marathon time, amazing business, amazing career, amazing marriage, amazing kids or amazing friendships. It takes hard work.
It takes being willing to be faithful in the things that don't seem like they matter—those small, insignificant things, and those things that are too unimpressive to post about on Facebook. It’s about just showing up and being faithful in the small things that no one ever sees. It's that hard work that not only creates the result you want, but also creates the person in you that you want to be.
[share]The results that you want to achieve and the person you want to become will happen when you put in the hard work.[/share]
I'm a different person today, not because of the big stage, but because of who I became when no one was watching. It was speaking at Kentucky county libraries on a Friday night for three people, or family reunions, or high school reunions, or the events where it was seated for 5,000 and three people showed up.
The results that you want to achieve and the person you want to become will happen when you put in the hard work. It happens in the small things and in the day-to-day grind. It happens when you're showing patience to your kids when you don't want to because they're driving you insane. It happens when you want to snap at your spouse, and you want to be short with them and be hateful, but instead respond with kindness. It happens when you give your time and energy. It happens when you in everything you do, even if no one ever knows it's you. It’s what happens when you show up with excellence, even when you don't get credit.
That hard work is what leads to the results you want in a life that's true to you, where you become the person that you want to be in that life.
I promise you this: If you want to live a life that's true to you, and if you want to lean into the life God has for you, it's going to take hard work.
Write that down and then join us for part three of this series: 5 Ways to Be True to You.
Today, I want to challenge you with something: Be willing to experiment.
If you're going to live a life true to you, then you've got to be willing to try some things. That’s right, I’m talking about being willing to experiment.
Sometimes, we don’t know what we want (or don’t want), what we like (or don’t like), or what we should be allowing into our lives. The best way to figure that out is by trying new things. In order to figure out what’s best for you, you’ve got to be willing to experiment. When you're willing to experiment and try some stuff, you're going to find the things that are you. You're going to find the things that are true to you.
[share]The life that God has for you—the life that’s already in you—is bigger and more fun and more amazing than you can imagine.[/share]
I’ve gone through many different phases in my life as I’ve tried experimenting with what was right for me. Right after college, I decided to move to a 40-acre farm—a real-life farm. Turns out it's a lot of work and really, really hard. But you know what? It was an experiment. It was fun. But during this time, I asked myself: Is this me? Am I a cowgirl? Turns out, I’m not—but it was a fun phase.
I also decided it would be fun to take Latin and ballroom dance lessons and play on an adult soccer league with all Guatemalan men who spoke no English (my Spanish got really good during that time). All of these things were me trying to find myself and figure out: What is true for me? What kind of life do I want to lead? What kind of person do I want to be?
All of us have an opportunity to experiment, try some things, and see if it works for us. But too often, we’re placing labels on ourselves and unwilling to try new things.
Friend, don't place labels and limitations on yourself. Be willing to push the boundary. Be willing to break outside of the box that you put yourself in. Try something new. Expand your world.
So, what are the things that you tell yourself? Maybe you’re thinking: “I'm not a fun mom. I'm not a businessperson. I'm not athletic. I'm not a runner . . .” But you have to be willing to experiment. You have to be willing to go for a run, put on some crazy heels, launch a business idea, or do something really fun and weird with your kids.
And guess what? You might just surprise yourself. You might already be that person. She's in there. She's just buried beneath the expectations of everyone else. So, be willing to experiment. Be willing to try some stuff.
When you do, you might just find that the life that God has for you—the life that’s already in you—is bigger and more fun and more amazing than you can imagine. And that’s a life that is true to you. You just don't know it yet.
Write that down and then join us for part two of this series: 5 Ways to Be True to You.
Many times, it can be easy to feel like we lose ourselves in all of our roles and responsibilities. We get so busy rushing from one thing to the next on the calendar, trying to keep up and perform, checking off all the tasks on our to-do lists. We get milk and sippy cups, take the kids to soccer, get dinner on the table, run our businesses, and keep up with work.
In the midst of all of this, you’re probably asking yourself: Where am I? Who am I in all of this? Where does my identity come from? What are things that are me that feel right for me?
This forced pause we’re all in right now is a great time to stop and think about what’s really true for you. What do you want your life to look like? What do you want your story to be?
We're so busy rushing and keeping up that we never have time to pause and reflect on what we really want our lives to look like, or if the life we’re living is one that’s true to who we were created to be.
I've noticed that when I’m the most stressed, anxious and frustrated, it's not because I'm doing too many things. It's because I'm doing the wrong things. I’m doing the things that aren't in line with my values and that don't feel like me.
[share]We're so busy rushing and keeping up that we never have time to pause and reflect on what we really want our lives to look like, or if the life we’re living is one that’s true to who we were created to be.[/share]
But the opposite is also true: When you spend your time on things you value and things that are right, you’ll feel joy, fulfillment, purpose, peace, less stress and more control. You’ll feel like you're living a life that's right for you.
And that's what I want to help you do. In this new series, I’m going to share five practical things you can do to discover who you are and what's right for you so that you can create a life that's true to you, your values and what God has in store for your life.
I want to help you journal and craft a vision for what a life true to you looks like. So, grab your journal and a pen and answer these simple questions:
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I can count at least 10 times in the last couple years that I’ve had a bad encounter with a pushy salesperson or someone who just wouldn’t take no for an answer. I bet you have too.
You see, every single time this happens, we create associations in our minds. For instance, if that pushy salesperson selling lotion at the mall shoves lotion in your hands every time you walk by, you’re probably not going to walk away feeling too good about sales. I’m willing to bet that every single one of you has had a bad experience with a pushy salesperson.
The problem is that these kinds of negative experiences form our views and beliefs about sales itself. Think about it. When you think of sales or salespeople, you probably think slimy, sleazy, pushy or shady. None of those are positive.
But here’s the good news: Sales doesn't have to be like that. You don't have to be pushy, aggressive, annoying or get on people’s nerves in order to sell. In fact, I hope you don't—that's not good sales . . . or even good business.
Whether you realize it or not, you're all in the business of sales. Sales is how you stay in business, make money, help people, solve problems, and make an impact in your community. Sales is serving people. Sales is telling people how you can help them. Money is just an exchange of value. It's a transaction. Life-change is what you're really selling, and that's what they're really buying. You aren't selling a thing. You’re selling life-change. You’re helping people make their lives better. And if you believe that—which you should—then you better get to selling.
Remember, if you don't believe in your business, no one else will. Stop playing small and calling it holy. God never called you to shrink back and play small and apologize for the dreams and gifts and message and business that He gave you. Start standing up and start speaking up on behalf of this thing that you say you believe in. Start solving problems and making people's lives better.
Start selling.
I'm so excited about today's interview because I'm showing you a behind-the-scenes look at the Business Boutique Academy, my online training and coaching group. In this interview, I’m talking to Sarah Sloyan, the vice president of EntreLeadership at Ramsey Solutions who also happens to be an expert in sales.
On this episode, Sarah and I talk about:
No one likes to be rejected, especially when it comes to sales. But what's interesting is that our fear of rejection actually keeps us from putting ourselves out there and making an impact in people’s lives.
My friend Tiffany Peterson says that 60% of sales occur after the fourth interaction. So that means people aren't necessarily saying no to you because they don't want what you have to offer or because they don't like it. People buy from those they know, like and trust. Maybe that “no” you just heard isn't really a no. Maybe it's a “not right now.” Maybe what they're actually saying is they don't know you well enough, like you enough, or trust you enough yet. Don’t give up. Keep building that relationship so that one day they will be ready to buy from you.
Failure is a stepping-stone on your journey to success. You will fall down. People will tell you no. People won’t like you or what you have to offer. But it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t mean you quit. It just means you’ve got to learn to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep going anyway.
It still doesn't feel good. It's still not fun. But there's a bigger purpose. There are more people that need what you have to give. So, get back in the kitchen. Get back on the horse. Walk back on the stage. Go on Facebook Live. Do the thing again anyway. Be willing to fail and fall down a few times to succeed in the long term for the people that need you. Those are the people you're fighting for. Those are the people that you're going to walk back out there to be able to serve.
Put yourself out there. When you get rejected, remember: Failure is not a sign you shouldn’t do it.